"As
Mother’s Day approaches this year (for many countries it has already come and
gone), many children make beautiful cards for their mothers and prepare
elaborate breakfasts or surprises to show their appreciation and love for them.
Older children will send flowers or gifts and convey the glad tidings to their
mothers. As Muslim mothers, we often bask in this glory and feel quite entitled
to this adulation. This is of course because the Holy Prophet (blessings and
peace be upon him) has declared that Jannah lies beneath the mother’s feet [Sunan
al-Nasa’i #3104]; and in one hadith the Holy Prophet (blessings and peace be
upon him) repeats three times that a mother is the most deserved of being
treated with respect and honour by her children [Sahih al-Bukhari #5626].
In another hadith, the Holy Prophet (blessings and peace be upon him) repeated
it four times [Ibn al-Sari, al-Zuhd #965]. The Qur’an [31:14] too
emphatically enjoins people to be good to their parents, and then singles out a
mother specifically because of the pain she endured to give birth to her
children and the years spent in rearing them. Although there can be no doubt in
the fact that mothers should be revered and honoured for the sacrifices they
make for the sake of their children, on Mother’s Day this year, we as mothers
should also indulge in some introspection and self-examination. Are we actually
deserved of such praise and gratitude? Have we truly done our best to raise our
children to be pious and God-fearing individuals, imbued with the love of Allah
and His Beloved Prophet (blessings and peace be upon him) in their hearts? Have
we raised our children to be humble servants of their Creator and endowed them
with the knowledge of the Prophet’s Sunna, so that they care about the rights
and duties they owe to their family, friends, neighbors, and society at large?
Have we raised our children so they are not insular and selfish and just
concerned about their own lives and future, but understand that they will be
accountable on the Day of Resurrection for their contribution to their local and
wider communities? This is not to say that we, as children, should question our
parents, for loving and honouring them is a divine command irrespective of their
success or failures. But as mothers and future mothers we need to question
ourselves and wonder, are we truly doing justice to our children’s upbringing?
On the Day of Judgment, will we able to face the Master of all Creation, secure
in the knowledge that as mothers we did lead our children to the doors of
Paradise?"
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